I am a human and what I do depends on me. Really? Humans are so dependent on other people’s opinions. Having been assessed positively, we feel powerful, successful, intelligent, and beautiful. We judge ourselves according to others’ comments on our actions. When criticized or laughed at, we feel bad, depressed and nothing seems to make us happy anymore. We think that there is nothing good going to happen, and we are taken away from ourselves.
This happens only because our ways are not accepted in society. ‘Ego’ cries for positivism, but none appears for you based on your facts on the opinions of others. The truth is that you will never be in favor of everyone surrounding you. There will always be a group of people that will not positively assess everything you do. One thing that will help against criticism is a self-confidence that one should grow within herself. A student may be a perfect example. Since childhood, people are likely to overestimate their possibilities and paint the future picture in pink colors.
When working out a plan for the future, we do not consider the majority of possible failures that might occur on the way to success. We need to recognize the person inside us. Why should we worry about how people think about us? Who is perfect in this world?
Perfectionism is a bad feature that is worth getting rid of. Nevertheless, it is present in the back corner of a young student’s “ego.”
Can you imagine a devastating consequence of a failure? The tutor praises the skills and intelligence. He feels like he is on top of the world and can do anything. You get used to good things quickly. When the genius is recognized, you start to think of yourself only as a genius. And after everything goes smooth and bright, there is a point when someone, even your beloved tutor, comes to criticize you and your work. Instead of an expected “A,” you get an “F.”
The perfect world falls apart because this error doesn’t fit into your plan. At this point, you build a characteristic of your actions from the way your tutors, colleagues give you. This is the main error in your system of values and priorities. You tend to overlook the world from the point of view of other people. What one should do is build up his or her system of values and, of course, consider some of the social priorities.
But every final decision you make should be based on your decision. A failure should only stimulate you to move forward and to overcome. Interference in society is unavoidable. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to close yourself to a world full of illusions. Hardships make a person more experienced, wiser, more robust. The more you hide and close into depression, the more time you lose to improve the situation.
The reality is harsh, but it is impossible to live beyond it; hence every final decision we make should be based on our judgment and knowledge, not on someone else’s perception.
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