In 2013, when we adopted three-month-old Chiku and Chini (Gourmet Dog), they were literally separated from their four siblings and parents. When we took them out, their mother barked for a long time - which meant she was opposed to the adoption. But the same night when we took them back she welcomed us and started wagging her tail at us (a way of saying thank you) and immediately started licking the babies - this is the way animals caress their babies. For the next 15 days, we would pick him up every morning from his maternal home (where he was born) and bring him to his in-laws' house (our home) and then drop him back at night to play with his siblings. With the passage of days, the time spent in the in-laws' house increased. On the ninth day, he refused to stay at the maternal home for the night and the mother did not even come to see where the children were going.
Then he started going to his maternal home during the day and would come back to our place after playing with the rest for two hours. From 15 days onwards he would go once a week again, this sequence continued for a month and after that once every three months. Even today, after nine years, when we pass by, we drop them at their maternal homes for a few minutes. I felt very happy to see him entering into a new relationship (with us) without breaking the old relationship (his parent's house). Even among his six siblings Chiku-Chini only goes to his parents regularly!
Parents always remain parents. Today if I exist in this beautiful world and witness human development over the last six decades it is only because of my parents who created me, fed me nutritious food to make me physically fit, so that I could work without any major illness, sent me to school-college and filled me with knowledge, so that I can do good work in this business world by being skilled. Teach me emotional-social skills so that I can be polite with other people and create my own society where I am respected, tell me moral stories so that I can differentiate between good and bad, it is not only for me and my family It should be for the whole society.
This personal experience came to my mind because this week I received a lot of emails from people asking why I am silent on the heinous murder of my partner Shraddha Walker by Aftab Poonawalla. I feel very bad for Shraddha, but I am also wondering what was the reason that she told her parents, 'I am 25 years old and I have every legal right to take my own decisions and now I am your daughter. Did not remain In relation to parents and children, there is nothing like 'I am yours...', in every DNA of our body, in every character and in every habit of our childhood, not only in our parents but also our grandparents. And there is a part of many ancestors.
I personally believe that poor Shraddha could not seek help from her parents after being harassed by Aftab, that is probably because she must have taken her words 'Main aapki nahin...' seriously. The poor child will never get to know that the old relationships (parent-parents) are the foundation of our life. And later on, we fly away somewhere so that we can build our dream house (new relationship) on that foundation. The funda is not to break old relationships for new relationships because both relationships get shattered in Tsunami.
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