Sometimes the path to happiness depends more on what you don't do.
Good luck in your business and personal life; it is often a matter of subtraction, not addition.
As we travel through life, we learn all kinds of behaviors. Some of them are helping us to grow and develop, while others may serve as a defense mechanism. The key is to learn what kind of behavior to be useful and which you do not. Then, we can stop doing things that don't serve us and start living the life that we deserve.
For example, consider what happens if you stop doing it, from 10 things:
1. Making Guilty.
Everyone makes mistakes. They don't live up to your expectations. Seller or vendor do not deliver on time.
Instead of accepting your own, you blame others for your problems.
But you are guilty too. Maybe you didn't train enough. You may not have enough built-in buffers. Maybe you asked too much, too soon. There can be many such things that indicate that your fault is also yours.
Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others, adding to it, will give you strength, then only you can focus on doing things better or better next time.
And when you get better or smarter, you become happier too.
2. Stop being fake.
No one likes you for your clothes, car, possessions, title, or achievements. They are all "things." People may like your stuff - but that doesn't mean they like you.
Of course, to the outside world, they appear superficial and abstract, and relationships that are not based on constituents are not real relationships.
True relationships make you happy, and you will build real relationships only when you stop trying to impress and start trying to be yourself.
3. Held.
If you are afraid or do not believe in yourself, then hold on to what you know, even if what you know isn't good for you.
The absence of fear or insecurity is not happiness: it is simply the absence of fear or insecurity.
Hold on to what you think won't make you happier; if so, you can reach up and try to get what you want.
Even if you're not able to get what you want, the act of trying alone will make you feel better.
4. Pause.
Don't interrupt, don't just be business-like. When you interrupt someone, what you're really saying is, " I'm not listening to you to understand what you're saying; I'm listening to you to decide what I want to say to you."
If you want people to love you? Listen to what they have to say. The Focus is on what they have to say—questions to ask to make sure that you understand what they are saying.
They will love you for it, and you will love how you're feeling.
5. Like.
Your words have power, especially over you. Whining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better.
If there is something wrong, don't waste your time complaining. These efforts are needed to improve the situation. If you don't want to complain about it, it is always, sooner or later, you will have to. So, why waste your time? Fix it right now.
Could you not say that it's not true? Talk about how you can do it, even if it's only with yourself.
And do the same thing with all of your friends and colleagues. Do not just have to cry on the shoulder.
Friends don't let their friends whine-friends help friends make their lives better.
6. Control.
Yes, that means you are in charge. Yes, you are a titan in the industry. So, you're the small tail that wags the dog.
And the only thing you can truly control is yourself. If you find that you're struggling to control other people, it means you have decided that you, your goals, your dreams, or even your opinions are more important than them.
Also, control is short-term at best because it often requires force, no fear, no authority, or some form of pressure-none of that, and that's what makes you feel good.
Those who want to go where you are going. They have to work harder, have more fun, and create better business and personal relationships.
You will be happy with it.
7. Criticism.
Yes, you are highly educated. Yes, you have a good experience. So, you have been around to more places, more mountains to climb, to kill more monsters.
It doesn't make you smarter, better, or more attentive.
It's just pretending that you're special, peerless, one of a kind, but in the end, the only you in this world.
Like everyone, including your employees.
Everyone is different: not better, not worse, just different. To evaluate the differences in the location of the defect and the people, and put yourself in a better light.
8. The words of a sermon.
Criticizing has a brother. His name is Preaching. They have the same father, "thought."
The higher you reach, the more chances you have to think about that, you know, and tell people everything you think you know.
If you're able to speak with more confidence than is warranted, people will be able to hear it, but they don't listen. A few sad things, and will leave you feeling less happy.
9. Dwelling.
In the past, it has been precious. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others.
Let's go.
That's easier said than done? It all depends on your focus. When something bad happens, please take it as an opportunity to learn things you didn't know before. When someone makes a mistake, see it as an opportunity to get a good-quality Instagram, and forgive them.
The past is just training; it doesn't define you. Think about what's going on, but just how you can make sure that the next time you are and the people around you know how you can make sure that everything is OK.
10. The fear of.
We are all apprehensive about what may or may not happen that we will not change what we can't do and how other people see us.
So that it's easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives.
In the meantime, days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by.
And in our dreams.
Don't let your fears hold you back. Whatever you're planning, but you haven't thought about it; you have had a dream, why don't you get it today.
If you want to start a business, take the first step. If you would like to change your career, take the next step; if you want to expand or enter a new market or product, or service, take the first step.
Put your worries aside and take action. Could you do something about it? Do what you want to do.
Otherwise, today will be gone. As soon as the morning comes, today is lost forever.
Today, it is the most valuable thing you have and the only thing you absolutely have to be afraid to miss out on.
11. Stop pretending to be all the time.
Raise your hand if you've been taught that there is only one answer to the question: "How is it going with you?" Do you know what the answer is? This is absolutely beautiful! Even if you're not very good at it, it says it's still "good."
The truth is that we all go through periods in our lives, which is really cool. It is a part of the human condition, and it's perfectly acceptable to say, ' This really sucks." I know that I want to say," well, we don't have to be grateful for all of it, but we can be grateful for all of it." I'm not in a conflict with myself.
It is true to say that it is fairly quiet but to make a life with gratitude.
Ignoring your grief, anger, frustration, and sadness won't help you to get rid of them. It will just sit there and smolder until you explode in one day.
I, too, am of the opinion that the reasons for dissatisfaction, it is a great experience. If there is something wrong with your marriage, or career goals, your feelings need to be heard. They are trying to tell you something.
And here's another thing to actually remember it. The pain and the struggle, you don't score points. Your sister is cancer, not scoring more bad points than your friend, a divorce, or even the growth you don't ge. The pain is in pain. We are faced with challenges in our lives, and it's not up to us to decide which of them deserve compassion.
Feel what you feel. Could you report it to a friend? Just don't let it consume you.
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