Between heaven and earth, all existence and movement need to obey its laws.
But the nature of life's destiny is revealed by the mutual influence of the three forces of heaven, earth and man.
Therefore, the master of the fundamental fate or their own.
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On mindset: the 90/10 rule
Before the passage begins, please take a multiple choice question.
You're having breakfast with the family and your son accidentally spills coffee on your white shirt while he's playing around.So you start to blame your son for not being sensible. The child is crying. Your protective wife has a quarrel with you.After an argument, you rush to get your kids to school, but it's rush hour.Then you got fined for being late for work and your boss criticized you for forgetting your briefcase.Your wife is upset, knocking over a fruit stand, and your son's baseball game is off.
When you think about how bad your day was, what do you think caused it?
A. coffee.
The son is not sensible.
C. the wife is unreasonable.
D. it is your attitude and behavior.
In this story, the spill of coffee on the shirt was an accident.
The subsequent series of bad luck is the inevitable result of your mind and behavior.
The correct answer: D.
As the writer qin wenjun wrote in the book girl of sixteen:
"Destiny has its own order. It is a series of choices."
Only 10 percent of what happens to you in life is beyond your control. The other 90 percent is determined by how you react.
This is known as the 90/10 law.
Once, read in the book a "crocodile effect".
When a crocodile bites your foot.
If you try to break free, the crocodile will seize your hands and feet.
At this point, your only option is to sacrifice a foot.
Life is nine times out of ten.
A truly wise man is not one who pursues pleasure, but one who avoids pain.
Only by accepting all the vicissitudes of life can we get rid of the dilemma and enjoy a more abundant life.
Remember in the book of later han, guo tai biography, there is such a record.
Guo tai saw someone accidentally broke the pottery in the arms, but the man did not return, but go.
Guo tai asks him actively: "good a crockery is broken so, how do you see not to see one eye?"
That person however answer: "break all break, again see still have what use?"
The gentleman service comes and the heart starts to appear, the matter goes but the heart with empty.
Walking in the world, with the wisdom of no struggle, then penetrate the true meaning of happiness.
02
About quality: the seesaw law
I'm sure you all played seesaw when you were little.
The fun of the game lies in alternating high and low interactions.But if one of the two parties greedily enjoys a high position, the balance can be upset.
And that's what the seesaw law says.
Standing in the macroscopic proposition of life, this law seems too simple.
But in fact, it has deeply touched on the greatest evil in human nature -- selfishness and jealousy.
Anyone who has ever caught a crab knows that if you catch only one crab, always remember to put the lid on the basket because it will run away.
But if you catch two or more crabs, don't worry about leaving the lid on.
Because they will block each other, even if they can not climb out, will not allow others to climb out.
So is the crab, so is the man.
Most of the pain in life, often not from their own mediocrity, but from the people around them.
In many cases, people are willing to do ridiculous things to prevent others from succeeding.
During this year's college entrance examination, a student in tiantai, zhejiang province, maliciously tampered with three students' college entrance examination wishes.
When the police asked him why he had done this to his classmates, he said:
"Because I usually have a good relationship with them, but I only got more than 300 points in the exam, and they did very well."
Homans, the famous social psychologist, has a famous saying.
"Interpersonal communication is essentially a process of social exchange, giving each other what they need."
Just as we played on the seesaw when we were children, the one who is good at giving can always find happiness and harvest friendship at the same time.
Not long ago, a short film blew up the circle of friends.
An old woman was stuck on a highway with a flat tire. Thanks to a man, she fixed her car.
Later, when the old lady went to the restaurant, she met a pregnant woman who was struggling to make a living.
Out of kindness, the old woman gave the pregnant woman some money to tide her over.
But at the end of the video, we find out that the pregnant woman's husband is the man who helped the old woman.
Man's kindness, the final return in his wife.
Life is an echo, crossing people, is also crossing yourself.
In the future on the road, when we try to do a good job in life ferry, then understand the meaning of life.
03
About tribulations: the mushroom law
Mushrooms are extremely powerful fungi.
It grows in a dark, damp, harsh environment, without sunlight or fertilizer.
Can only be born and die, desperately try to grow tall enough, strong enough, is the focus of people.
In fact, mushrooms grow in the same way that many people do in society.
Not only does not have advantaged development space, but also faces the hardships and hardships of life.
Some time ago, huawei jd.com and other major enterprises have erupted a wave of layoffs.
While many people are worried about being laid off, they also make this exclamation:
"Nowadays, doctors are everywhere, masters are not as good as dogs, the environment is really not optimistic, wait and see."
However, such remarks remind philosophical gentleman of a line in country love.
"Oneself have no ability to say have no ability, how you arrive where, where all environment is bad, you are the person that destroys environment?"
Xunzi you said:
"He who knows himself does not complain; he who knows his destiny does not complain;He who complains of others is poor, and he who complains of heaven has no ambition."
In each person's growth process, is destined to experience a period of darkness incubation period.
In this long period of time, the fight is often not smart and luck, but perseverance and perseverance.
A few days ago, I saw a real story on weibo.
When typhoon lichima passed through this year, the blogger worked overtime at the company, watching the weather getting worse, so he hurried to take a taxi home.
After boarding the bus, the blogger chatted with the driver and said, "the typhoon may be coming, pick up the bus early and go home."
But the driver replied, "this is the spot for work."
In fact, it's not just taxi drivers, crazy delivery boys on rainy days, roadside umbrella vendors.
They are in the worst environment, tenacious struggle.
Life is a bridge over mountains and rivers.Circumstances can affect you, but never determine you.
Wintersweet has experienced the cold winter snow, in order to send out the most intense fragrance;Vasson is resistant to drought and cold even if it grows on top of a rock or tile house.
Smile to warm, time weiyang.
Know how to let their own out of the suffering of the soil of gorgeous flowers, will melt into the philosophy of life.
04
I really like one of Hugo's famous quotes:
"When fate hands me a sour lemon, let us try to make it into sweet lemon juice."
Born in the world, everyone is his ferryman.
Wish you and I can travel through the world, in this lonely sea of suffering to the other shore of life.
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