Hello Parents,
If you are raising a teenager or a child younger than that, you may have seen sentences like loud doors closing, throwing stuff in the room, tears in your eyes, slapping legs. Leave me alone, do what you want to do, like you have heard from the dialogue too. Keep an eye on your child and be aware of the causes of mood swings. Some children become irritable when they feel hungry or sleepy.
On some occasions they are correct, but most of the time it is a spam drama. At a time when you try to talk to your child, the matter becomes more upside down rather than calm. You also get angry after seeing this. Everyone goes through this phase in its life. You cannot fix it but can find a way to improve the situation. Empathize and understand them and try to put yourself in their place.
So let's know some things that you can get back to a deteriorating or distant relationship with your child - just keep these 7 magical points in mind -
1. Tell them you are always there to support them
If they are talking about shouting, then instead of reacting to them, find out the reason behind their behavior. Try to find out why this change has come in his behavior. Don't get angry at his mood swings, but show him your support. Try to talk to them and find out what is bothering them. If they refuse to talk to you then leave them alone but they will realize that you are with them. When they are calm then they can ask about this again while eating food or while watching TV.
2. Set Your Limits
Be clear about how your child's behavior is accepted and rejected. This will help create scope for you. Your child will take your limit test. He would like to know that he can carry this behavior even till he is told and it is up to you how much you give him. If they start going beyond the limits, then alert them. Keep patience. It is very important… If you show more love, then the child will be spoiled and if you meet every demand, then the child will be spoiled, you will have to deal with it very thoughtfully. If the child does not agree, then explain to him instead of shouting a fight.
3. You keep calm and don't criticize
Avoid condemning and judging them. Chances are your child is overreacting. But you have to keep your patience and control the situation. Do not get carried away by him in his emotional state. If you make fun of him and taunt him, he will feel that the whole world is against him. If you lose your patience at such a time, then the situation will get worse.
4. Respecting the child's feelings -
At this age, children are very fond of standing in front of the mirror, wearing fashionable clothes, making the hair of the style… They try new things in such a way that many parents laugh and make fun of not knowing what to do for your generation. Gone or you seem to be clowning .. should not say so… We are making the difference of the old generation by saying it ourselves, so we should respect their feelings and if they do not like it, then tell them in such a way that they also understand Come and do not feel bad…
5. Children's friends are very special
In Teen Age, children are the most loved of their friends… and parents do not like their friends at all… What should they do now? Friends should always be welcome… One of the advantages of this is that if friends come home then parents will have to It is known that what kind of friends are there, if they are good then they are very good and if they are not good then they can be explained…
Apart from this, trust the children… Do not raise doubt again .. Do not spy .. If the child says that he is going to picture with a friend, do not spy
6. Be a friend more than a parent
Become friends of children. See, it is very important to know everything about the child that parents should become friends of the child so that they share everything and they should know… Be reasonable .. Do not sleep till eight o'clock at night. Go… do not do that… do not put more things, it will make the children feel suffocated there. Always be present for the child... Not that I am in the meeting or talking on the phone when needed. Share experiences to guide them, if you explain something to the child many times, then they do not understand, tell me their experience many times that when I was of your age, it happened once… it happened that children listen more carefully
7. Treat them like a teen, not a child.
Treat children like teenagers and not like children… Usually many parents especially Mothers do the same to the child as they used to do in childhood, like cheek, talk like children. If the child is standing with his friends, he does not like it… He says, “Mom, I am not a child anymore…”
If you feel that there is a lot of conflict between you and the child every day, then you should not consider yourself alone. Talk to other parents and get to know their experiences. Do not be disappointed, this time will also go and the situation will be better.
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