WHY GIRLS DO NOT PROPOSE GUYS: MOST IMPORTANT REASONS
"Should I propose to him? Well, it is the boy who always approaches first. If I propose at first, he might think of me to be desperate, or he will reject me?" Well, every girl faces this difficulty when they start falling in love with someone. Thousands of questions arise in their mind when they want to propose their valentine, but most of them prefer to take a back step and wait for the proposal from the boy's side at first.
Love is a very special feeling; it is an intense and deep affection towards someone. It is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions. When you are in love with someone, you just cannot stop yourself from thinking about that person; you just want them to be truly happy no matter what it takes, that's how you care about them and because their needs become your major priority before your own. But our "so-called perfect society" had created some gender-specific roles which even becomes an obstacle in the way of 'love'. With the fear of being judged by society, there are many other reasons why girls usually hesitate to approach their life partner.
Idealistic romance
Mostly when girls dream about their life partner, they become more creative. Captivated and allured by those famous Bollywood romantic movies in which the hero proposes his girlfriend knelt with a flower of the bouquet in his hand and in front of everyone is still a dream for many girls. They visualize an idealistic romance, which is an unrealistic expectation.
Fear of rejection
Girls also have a fear of rejection in their minds when it comes to proposing their partner. This constant fear & doubt of getting rejected & self-respect forces them to take a back step. The fear of rejection is worse than rejection without knowing that the guy likes you or not.
Easily approachable
Many of us have a perception that it sounds desperate when a girl approaches her love; on the other hand, the same thing done by boy makes him sweet and romantic. Also, if a girl comes out of the defined limits set by society and proposes the guy, she is being judged to be easily approachable. Despite a girl liking the guy, she has to keep it within herself. It is mainly due to this fear of being questioned and judged by society; many girls prefer to stay within the defined limits.
The habit of pampering & the special feel
Girls are mostly found pampered by their family members, and they expect the same thing from their prince charming. So they never take the initiative to propose first as they are used to getting pampered, and they feel special when they get the same attention from their partner.
Cultural ties
In our Indian society, some gender-specific roles have been framed, which is passed from generation to generation in the name of religion. Even in Hindu mythologies and religious texts, boys were given the leading role to choose their life partner, and girls were supposed to just accept it. Right from ancient times, women were taught to be docile and sit back. So fear of being judged by society and their acquaintances forces them to take a back step.
Waiting for the 'perfect guy.'
Thanks to those Tom Cruise, Bradd Pitt movies about whom every girl dreams and visualizes their guy to be perfect. This Bollywood and Hollywood romantic movies have shaped the mind frame of young generations that they always seem to run after a perfect& handsome guy. But, if you really love someone whole-heartedly, even you will start admiring their imperfections. As no one is born perfect, we become unique because of our imperfections. So, don't keep waiting for the right guy because there is no such thing as the right guy and right moment.
Women prefer men to ask them out.
Ask any girl she will obviously prefer her partner to ask her out for everything, whether it is about going for a date. The same goes for the proposal. Why will a girl not like if her partner proposes her or gives her surprises to make her feel that she is the most important part of her life?
The ultimate dilemma
The ultimate dilemma faced by many girls when proposing is thinking about "Am I worthy enough for him?" She thinks that she is not good for that boy. True love has no parameters that need to be fulfilled. So, take pride in who you are, go ahead and speak your heart out.
At the end of the day, be it a boy or girl, someone needs to take the initiative to propose because all that matters is love. A relationship becomes successful when both the genders give each other equal importance, love& care. With the changing time, we should try to break those stereotypical images,s which became a hinder in the pathways of many lovers. If you like a boy, don't wait for any right time. Just speak out in front of him and be strong to listen to his response. It is far better to speak your heart out than overthinking or making any false assumptions.
After all, 'Love recognizes no barriers, it jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hopes'.
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