First of all, we all must clear with the word “PAIN” and why it is cardinal to bear it. Isn’t it only the physical pain that happens due to the injury of bone or body tissues or the mental trauma, which is sad to say we all are facing in the 21st century. Or it is just the name of our failed efforts and endeavors.
Based on living and spending twenty-two spring seasons of my life so far this is how I picture pain:
P represents PATIENCE
A represents ACTION/AIM
I shows INTENSE EMOTIONS
N for NEGATIVITY
- Patience importance in our life like blood running in our body. But the higher the patience gets, the more pain we experience and sometimes this pain does not matter at all when we are serving the great purpose. This patience can be both physical and mental. If I first talk about physical then it can either be the patience of pregnant women who is waiting for her labor day and will experience great labor pain of fracturing like 20 bones at the same time or a girl who is dealing with her periods pain every month for the reason of ultimate incessant of generation of mankind or the patience of a couple who are trying hard to conceive specially their first child, struggling and dealing with sexual pain and facing the social dilemma for the years. But mentally pain worsens then the physical pain whose level of damage is beyond our imaginations and unpredictable. Like a mother who is dealing with mental torturing of giving birth to a baby girl instead of a boy which will be a symbol of pride for the family. Or an adult girl who is being rejected by several marriage proposals just because of insufficiency of her beauty, not having ideal facial features or she has a dark complexion or not have a perfect eyesight or she must be above 5’7 or should be six feet, all these requirements look like she is not getting married rather than she is about to join army. How ridiculous it is…….. The infertile couple is dealing with his family criticism and at the same time facing social scornful disheartening words. All of them are enduring this pain of patience because they have a belief of a better coming future when they will prove wrong to all these social critics and fulfill their ultimate purpose for what they were suffering for years.
- AIM is like the soul of a body and when you don’t have any aim or ambition in life, your life seems to be useless and frivolous not only to others but also to you. And when you have a real aim, you work for it, you struggle for it and do deliberately efforts to make it accomplished. This aim or purpose can be short or can take years which go hand in hand with the level of your pain you endure because the more pain you tolerate in your aim road, the higher the purpose you achieve in your life.
- We can not live without being emotional, falling in love and getting an attachment with somebody. It always a combo in life as emotions come with pain. Like you are failing to save your friendship or any other relation, you family members are about to getting separate and your home is breaking, you are having a breakup of several years relationship and your happy married life is leading to devastating stage, all these things make you an emotional puppet dealing with extreme mental pain shocks whenever you failed in dealing and controlling these emotions. Besides this dark page of the book of life when you turn the page, you see the possibility. And you get all the answers why you are chosen to tolerate this pain when you start winning the heart of your loved ones, get back your family, a warrior who able to save his relationship and a winner who retains his happy married life.
- We are only capable of distinguishing light when we have a night to compare likewise we are impotent to appreciate and celebrate valuable moments without a dark period or negativity. And it is for sure when there is living negativity in you there will be a pain in your neighbor. I believe this pain will make you live your life fully and make you celebrate each worth living moment which you get in your life.
There is a famous dialogue from the movie “The Fault In Our Star” which is “Pain Demands To Be Felt”.
What this five-word phrase means to me that we deserve to felt only those pains which ultimately going to fulfilling our desires, aims, nourishing and satisfying us and our emotions and leading our life to a better road with every stage of conquering this pain monster.
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